Daddy Issues Part II: The Equality Hoax
Never put off what is truly important.
The eyes truly are a window to a person’s soul, as the famous saying goes. What I see more and more when looking into people’s eyes is sludge: a glossing over and bewildering state of affairs, like how the hell did I get to this point? Where is all that milk and honey I was promised by mainstream society if I work hard and follow all the rules?
Women especially have been sold a bill of goods. You see this particularly in white-collar corporate America. The ruse is not the issue of whether or not women experience some forms of oppression. This certainly is still the case. No, the ruse is that the road to freedom and equality for women is via the corporate rat race that is constantly being peddled by our rulers. The constant push to prove that women can do it all and that the way to judge whether or not there is equality in society is via indicators such as the number of women in corporate boardrooms, or in middle management positions, or in STEM (science, technology, engineering, math) fields etc. At the end of the day, who benefits from this narrative? As always, it is our tiny elite that get greater numbers of people to go down an increasingly narrow path of what is considered a successful career and life. Of course, so many people now must pursue a narrow corporate-driven career and life track because once you go down that road of accumulating enough college debt and your personal identity becomes more and more associated with and indistinguishable from your “career path,” you really have no choice but to join a soulless dead end lane that ultimately leads to unhappiness for so many, both women and men.
You can see it all around with our mothers, sisters, daughters, wives, and friends. It is sad to see the stresses in their eyes. The betrayal of motherhood and the betrayal of dreams for more spiritually fulfilling jobs, careers, and lifestyles is bubbling to the surface. So, congratulations to the women of the world. By all of us following the definition of equality by the establishment, women are rapidly gaining equality to men. The problem and what is not discussed nearly enough is that this narrow vision of equality is leading to equality in things such as alcoholism, suicide, and heart disease, which have typically been issues more associated with men but are increasingly now becoming issues for women. Yay for equality!
I want my daughters to grow up to be strong, empowered women. My wife and I are guiding them the best way we can possibly think of to prepare them for the absolute coldness, but also beauty of this world. We are trying to instill in them a level of true confidence and self-love that will enable them to hopefully carve out a path to genuine happiness as adults. This may or may not involve some sort of corporate office job if they choose that is what they want, but if it does it will be set in a framework of a bigger picture vision of a balanced life. Still, it is important to stress that the idea of following your heart in this world does not mean taking things easy, nor being divorced from the realities of the need for money to survive/thrive. Far from it. In fact, trying to lead a truly meaningful life/career most likely requires you to work harder overall to keep your head above water. In addition, careful planning is an absolute must and the earlier the better before the college years/adulthood begins. However, hard work that actually brings joy and meaning is a whole lot more tolerable.
First and foremost, my daughters are learning not to take shit from anyone; not from any man or other women. I hope more than anything that they end up following their hearts in life and not be pressured by peers or the mainstream into doing what is perceived to be done by everyone. Every soul has a blueprint it wants to follow, the reason it was put on this earth. For my daughters—as well as my sons—my job is to help them figure out their unique blueprint that is different for everyone which, if they follow, will lead them to a life overflowing with purpose and true contentment, while at the same time not sugarcoat the harsh realities of life and this world.
Really, this plea is about how both men and women have been deceived. For both my daughters and my sons, the ultimate focus is on helping make sure they are strong and filled with true confidence of who they truly are as individuals. Next in importance is finding a life partner who will be their best friend to help create a nurturing life and family. The big thing is to get on with that. Don’t sit back and spend your precious years from aged 18 to 30 jumping from corporate job to corporate job trying to find a perfect career fit and, of course, make enough money to not only pay off ridiculously high college loans, but also to afford an unrealistically perfect home.
Establishing yourself in the corporate job world first and foremost and then hoping everything else eventually works itself out in your life is fraught with danger. And, yet, this is the overwhelming message generally told to youngster today. It is now basically accepted as the standard, correct route that people should delay having children until well into their 30s. Via this route, by the time people decide to start a family, so many are already burned out from 6 or so years of higher education and then ten or so years trying to establish themselves to the level of some sort of middle management so that they can have that nice house and big new SUV before the first child is born.
Kids are hard work. They take a ton of your time and energy. They are also miracles and the most wonderful experiences in the world. And yet we have a couple generations now of people in their mid-30s and often times later who are just getting around to finding true long-term partners and having children if they want them. But you can see it in their eyes. The biggest thing you see is stress and anxiety of how the hell they are going to juggle having kids within the framework of the relentless demands of our corporate American system. In this way, children subconsciously become a burden to too many already burned-out 30 somethings. If people are lucky, a couple of weeks of time off are allowed to enjoy the miracle of life, then it’s time to send the child to daycare so that mommy and daddy can return to cubicle life to deal with endless emails, spreadsheets/charts, and now AI training (how exactly is AI going to make things better for the average person?). Wow, what a time to be alive. Don’t worry about being truly informed and engaged members of society or finding honest friends and true-life partners. Don’t be bogged down by starting a family or pursuing real passions. Those can all wait. Actually, no they can’t.
The final article of this series coming soon: Daddy Issues Part III: No Lube Required/Don’t be a Nice Guy